A little about self-worth

People can often tell you rich, complex stories about their lives. And they can be labeled as lies. In the strict morality of black and white, they are black. They are lies. They are the stories that people tell themselves and others, which could potentially/ plausibly be the stories of their lives if they did…

What really happens in therapy?

Therapy is science’s poetic treatment of a physiological condition. Therapy is equal parts science and art.  Learning had happened, but healing had not. That realization is what pushed me towards therapy.  Learning was in place because I could see patterns in my behavior. There were times when I could hold back my reaction to build…

Why are there so many adults out there today who are seeking therapy?

Why are there so many adults out there today who are seeking therapy?  It is not easy to answer. But it becomes more comfortable when you take a step back.  This applies to you whether or not you are a parent.  When was the last time that you let your kid cry it out? Unless…

I am still unprepared for the world

I was unprepared for the elephant pineapple incident. It didn’t factor in, even in my wildest imagination. Just did not. I moved into a new place this week. I was unprepared for the kindness of strangers. Random shop keepers going out of their way to make tea for me. Society guards being helpful, in spite…

Does spiritual awareness make you more of yourself?

The most enduring qualities that we discover of ourselves, we are only made aware of when we have passed the most rigorous tests set by the Universe. We have called to God enough and more times when in need, in pain, and sometimes God has deigned to answer. And other times, there has been silence….

You can’t take criticism from those who are not being brave in their lives

My dad has very strong views about me living in with my boyfriend. We belong to a modest Indian family, and there are very strong undercurrents of how honor and respect for the family resides in how well children have been brought up and how obedient they are. I am in love with a man…

The finality of an escape

For as long as I can remember I have had body image issues, sometimes compounded by well wishers and parents. In an effort to get me to a healthier lifestyle or to look a certain way that was more acceptable in society, they undermined my self worth. And it has taken me a large part…

Can someone really change?

When I look back, say 10 years, I don’t think I was a nice person. I was zero on empathy, didn’t believe in feeling too much or anything at all. I was in a relationship of convenience, or maybe in multiple relationships of convenience. A lot of what I let myself feel was “transactional”. I…

The future of present.

What I really want to say is that this isn’t how I expected the future of my present to be. Then in the present, I was dreamy, hopeful, and in love with the idea of being in a relationship. All I saw was that I wouldn’t have to miss this person any more. I would…

If you must do something, then inspire people to truly live.

Language barely does the job of expressing how we feel; words cannot always convey the depth of an emotion a person can feel at a moment for another person, be it for a friend, a lover or a child. And funnily, as much as we would like to pretend otherwise, the intensity of the emotion…