Anxiety recovery is salty

Healing is a messy journey. Often I find myself reacting to some past hurt, and bleeding on the current joys of life.  In a romantic relationship, it is very important for me to feel connected to the person. Even when the intimacy of the relationship by itself doesn’t demand that we speak to each other…

A little about self-worth

People can often tell you rich, complex stories about their lives. And they can be labeled as lies. In the strict morality of black and white, they are black. They are lies. They are the stories that people tell themselves and others, which could potentially/ plausibly be the stories of their lives if they did…

What really happens in therapy? 

Therapy is science’s poetic treatment of a physiological condition. Therapy is equal parts science and art.  Learning had happened, but healing had not. That realization is what pushed me towards therapy.  Learning was in place because I could see patterns in my behavior. There were times when I could hold back my reaction to build…

Does grief make you a better writer?

I know that the title is insensitive. Ordinarily it would be insensitive for me to tell you that the parts of you that are hurting the most could be turned into something beautiful. But if you think about it, it could also be the best way to pay homage to your loss.  In the space…

How can you cultivate optimism and bring joy to your life?

Human beings are hardwired for negativity and danger. That’s how we survived the stone ages and sabre toothed tigers and what nots. At the very beginning of time, our brain was hard wired to detect threats, drops in temperatures, possible famines and scarcity and impending death. So from centuries, we notice first and we notice…

Self Worth doesn’t need external validation. Here’s why.

A lot of people don’t look at you the way you look at them. These could be the ones closest to you too. It could be a parent, a sibling, a significant other, a best friend. They don’t see you in the light that you see yourself. And that’s okay. It makes you feel anguished,…